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Sometimes, as a parent, it's possible to feel a pervasive sense of inadequacy.

Mom (and dad) guilt refers to this feeling that you're never doing enough as a parent.

Whether it's fears about long-term harm to your kids or feeling overwhelmed with nonstop daily tasks, mom guilt can leave parents dealing with doubt and negativity in their decision-making.

While some guilt is usual, unchecked mom guilt can lead down a path of impulsive, unhealthy behaviors and depression. So, it's vital to understand ways to recognize and manage "Mom Guilt." 

How can you manage "Mom Guilt?"

• Help yourself first. You are at your best as a parent when you're feeling your best. Make it a priority to get the rest and rejuvenation time you need.
• Share the responsibilities. Make time for Me time (and We time with a partner) and ensure you're not the only one bearing the load for the entire family.
• Focus on family. There's no shortage of opinions and advice out there. Focus on what's suitable for you and your family.
• Avoid comparison. It's natural for parents to brag about their kids and home life. Resist the urge to engage and embrace the parent you are and the child you have instead.
• Nurture your relationships. Friends and other adults can easily fall by the wayside with a newborn. Take time to nurture relationships outside of your kids too.
• Talk to a professional. Persistent "Mom Guilt" can prevent you from enjoying life and the magic of parenting. It's okay to talk to a therapist or mental health professional about it.